Friend: lol but eh i feel a little conflicted by thinking that because i know i shouldnt have to wait around but like i dont know fuck it or something because fairy tales aren't always as pretty in real life. and i dont have much else to do. so i'll just hide my false hope under the rug or something.
Me: well of course you aren't going to have things figured out right away, and you will feel conflicted. I think it's normal. and yeah you will still have that hope that maybe things will be different, but in the end sometimes they aren't different. and then you will have waited for something that meant nothing. but really you didn't lose anything by it. it was just a season of your life, and remember "this too shall pass"
Friend: yeah so its okay to have that silly little hope deep down inside me? lol
Me: uh yes. lol
Me: i've been holding on to a lyric for a while, "I'm still carrying a little hope, that maybe, things could be different now. Is that so wrong?"
Friend: who is it?
Me: jimmy eat world.
Friend: i see. yeah. i mean i cant get around it. but i feel bad about it. eh and maybe thats love. like real love and maybe real love isnt always your soul mate or who you are supposed to be with or whatever.
ME: real love doesn't have to be with your soul mate. atleast I don't think it does.
Me: I think real love is for anyone.
Friend: well i always want to think love last forever and that makes me think you can only have one but maybe you can love more than one forever and if i cant have him the way i want him i love him regaurdless no matter how much it hurts
Me: you think so much like me sometimes.
I love my best friend. We think so much alike sometimes, it's scary.
And you know what?
Many floods cannot quench love. ( i can't remember if that is from Ecclesiastes or Song of Solomon, but it's beautiful.)
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ReplyDelete(Few typos I saw)
ReplyDeleteTypically, the stages of going through a bad breakup are something like this (not necessarily in this order)
Denial
Bargaining
Anger
Despair
Acceptance
The road to that last step is a real bitch, but your friend will make it there when s/he's ready
I actually think a big problem these days is that a lot of people just hold unrealistic exceptions on what love is supposed to be, like they just don't know that it can also be a double-edged sword. When someone comes to realize that for the first time, they're shocked that something so unbelievably beautiful can hurt so much. Love can be a fucking bitch, but its potential more than outweighs any of its risks. Keep being there for your friend, s/he'll make it out of this in one piece :)
Also, by "unrealistic exceptions", I did mean soul mates and fate and all that junk. You can call this "Oh, Jason and his lack of wishing on shooting stars" if you want, but seriously, just think about it. Thinking like that only makes one expect or see something more in a relationship, that may or may not even ever be there. It's not impossible for two people to really really like each other, simply because their personalities are compatible.
ReplyDeleteNot trying to bash anyone's parade here, I'm just saying an important part of personal strength is finding the perfect balance between grounding emotions and embracing them
I can't decide if I came off sounding like a dick or not
ReplyDeleteI just realized I kept saying exceptions instead of expectations. I need sleep, shut up
ReplyDeleteHow you liking all these comments by the way?
Voicing your opinion doesn't make you sound horrible Jason.
ReplyDeleteI do believe that there is a soul mate, or a person you are meant to be with. (but hey, this is from the person who wishes on shooting stars).